SHOCKING MISTAKES THAT MAY DAMAGE YOUR SKIN

In spite of taking good care of your skin, does your skin feel dry, irritated and dull? Are you ready to visit your dermatologist? Hold on! There are some surprising skin care mistakes that you might be doing every day.

Beyond regular cleansing, toning and moisturizing routine, there are so many things that are involved in your skin care. 

Here are few shocking skin care mistakes that you might be doing

Hot shower

Do you like to indulge in a long, hot shower after a hectic day at work. This practice is an enemy for your skin!! Prolonged hot shower will actually damage your skin’s essential fats such as, cholesterol, lipids and ceramides. In fact, hot water breaks the skin’s barrier that has essential fatty acids. These fatty acids are essential for maintaining right moisture levels around your skin barrier. The result is the “dryness and dehydration of the skin”. Hence, take bath with lukewarm water, if possible, with cold water. If you are tempted to take a relaxed shower, do not pamper yourself for more than 15 minutes.

Strong soaps, shampoos and body Washes

Almost all soaps and body washes include a powerful ingredient called “sodium laureth or lauryl sulfate”. This strong chemical is the one that is present in dish-washing liquids and detergent soaps. Such harmful chemicals can penetrate the human skin cells. They damage the skin’s barrier. This leads to irritation, dryness and inflammation.

In addition to this, most of the regular shampoos also have this irritating component. Check whether you soap or shampoo has this particular ingredient. If you find this ingredient, then switch to mild, non-foaming cleansers for your face, body and hair. Further calming alternatives are organic, oil-based and un-scented body washes.

Strong Facial Masks and Peels

Mild face masks and peels are really good for cleansing and exfoliating your skin. They can also help to maintain your skin pores clean. However, some powerful masks and peels like glycolic acid peel or even a chemical spa treatment destructs your skin’s barrier and causes inflammation. If you wish to pamper yourself with a good facial massage at your favorite spa, pick something that is calming and soothing for your face. For instance, oxygen facial can be very soothing and calming for your face. It can actually bring a healthy glow on your face. Nowadays, there are so many at-home facials that are available in the market. Nevertheless, make sure that to choose a mild one.

Aggressive Rubbing

Rubbing your skin aggressively after taking a shower may cause abrasion and irritation. Always pat your skin with a soft towel. Apply a good moisturizer immediately on your damp (not dry) skin. This facilitates deep absorption of the moisturizer into the skin and thus leaves your skin soft and supple.

Skipping Sunscreen in Winter Season

We all know that powerful UV rays from the sun will aggravate too many skin problems. Therefore, it is very important to apply a sunscreen that has an SPF of 30 or more. Check whether your sunscreen has both UVA and UVB protection. Another mistake that people often make is skipping their sunscreen lotion during winter season. Remember, sunscreen is not only for summer. It is very important  to use a sunscreen that has at least SPF of 15 during winter. Skipping your sunscreen lotion totally may damage your skin. This is because the sun’s rays will be severe at higher altitudes and during winter season also.

Check Your Medicines

Apart from all the above factors, your health condition and the medicines you take may have a greater impact on your skin. For instance, diabetic patients may experience severe dry skin. Check your medicines with your doctor to find an alternative.

GIRLS NEVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAM

If you’ve always wanted to be a teacher, don’t let him talk you out of it. You shouldn’t have to choose between your man or your dreams. If you love one another, you should be able to find a way to make things work. If you decide you no longer want to follow a certain career path, that’s fine. But one of the things a woman should never do for a man is let go of her dreams in order to be with him.

Change your Morals

Everyone has a different set of morals, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, your man should respect your morals even if he doesn’t share them. If he urges you to break them, he is doing you a disservice. He should like you for who you are, and shouldn’t try to change you. Your strong morals should be something he admires, not something he wishes to change.

Sacrifice Your friends Time

Everyone will agree that there aren’t enough hours in the day. However, you can’t spend all of your free time with your man. Your friends and family need you just as much as he does, even if you don’t realize it. Divide your time in a way that is fair for everyone. Don’t neglect your friends, because you’ll need them once your relationship ends.

Forget Whom You Are

You know your likes and dislikes. You know what you want to spend your weekends doing. Don’t let a man alter your opinion on things. It’s okay to grow, but don’t purposely act like you like something you hate, because you think it will make him happy. Be whom you are, or what’s the point?

Let Him control you

As much as you love him, you should never let him have total control over your life. If you’re in a committed relationship, it’s important to discuss big decisions. However, he doesn’t have the final decision over what you are and are not allowed to do. In the end, you’re always going to be the one in charge of choosing your path in life.

Lower Your standards

You know what you want, and you know what you need. If a man isn’t good enough for you, then don’t settle for him. It takes time to find the one for you. It’s not that you’re picky--it’s that you’re unwilling to settle for anything less than the best.

Alter Appearance

Just because men love Victoria's Secret models doesn’t mean that they all need girlfriends that fit that mold. If your man pressures you to dress a certain way or to get surgery, you don’t need him. It’s your body, and you’re in charge of it. If he doesn’t see your natural beauty, then you should look for someone who does.

Act stupid

Never pretend to be someone you’re not. Don’t pretend to be less intelligent or less handy around the house to make him happier. Believe it or not, men like independent women. He’ll be proud of how capable you are of taking care of things.

Have Kids to Please Him

If you and your man want to have kids, then that’s fantastic! But if your man wants to have children and you’re not comfortable with the idea, you can’t get pregnant to please him. Having a baby is a huge choice that you have to take seriously. You can’t have a baby, just because he wants one. It’s a decision that you have to agree on, if you want it to work.

Starve Yourself

There’s nothing wrong with being healthy. If you want to go on a diet or begin exercising, that’s great! Of course, you should only do so because you want to better yourself. Don’t do it in order to please the opposite sex. And, of course, never use extreme methods like purging or starving yourself. There are plenty of ways to lose weight and feel fit that involve healthy methods.

Hurt Someone

If your boyfriend wants you to stop associating with an ex, it’s a touchy situation. If you do as he wishes, make sure that you don’t end up severely hurting your ex. He’ll understand, so just explain the situation to him, instead of suddenly cutting him out of your life completely.

When you’re in love, your partner is bound to become a massive part of your life. However, being close to him doesn’t grant him authority over your decisions. Have you ever done something for a man that you now regret?

HOW TO KEEP HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Every one crave a healthy relationship but may not know the ways to keep relationship healthy. Through life’s ups and downs there are sure ways to keep a relationship healthy and deepen your connection to each other every day. 

Relationships are all about getting along with someone that you spark a love interest with. If you don't get along, it's not really a relationship is it? You can wait for your broken relationship to crumble to pieces.

Here are some of the most influential ways that will help your relationship flourish!

Trust Each other 

Don't lie, don't cheat, and trust them when they say they aren't. Why would you be in a relationship if  your just going to be unfaithful? Don't ever lie and make up feelings. Don't say "I love you" unless you feel it, and if they don't say it back it's okay, it takes longer for others. If they have a friend of the opposite sex, don't automatically be mean and nasty all the time to your partner and their friend. It is possible to just be friends, and if your feelings are true for each other this shouldn't even be a issue.

Be Open and Honest With Each Other

One of the most influential ways to keep your relationship healthy is to be open and honest. This means maintaining a level of respect for each other’s boundaries and always talking through everything together. There should be no outside forces driving either of you to make decisions between the two of you because as long as you’re both open and honest with each other, you will both grow and compromise and love each other more and more!

Understand Each other

Being understanding of each other’s decisions, lifestyles, and future desires is crucial in developing a healthy relationship. Learn how to read each other’s body language, how to read each other’s facial expressions, and how to read each other’s thoughts. Understanding each other incorporates all of the bullets I just mentioned in this article because understanding is the root of your relationship. Once you both understand each other, you can then grow together and maintain a healthy relationship.

Encourage Each other

In keeping decisions between the two of you, make sure to encourage one another through the process. You know the expression: it takes two to tango. I can tell you from experience that unless there is encouragement in a relationship, the two of you will fall apart. If he has a dream or goal, support him and show him your encouragement. If you have a big dream or goal, he should equally be supporting and encouraging you!

Give Each Other Space

Part of having a healthy relationship also means giving each other space in addition to sharing those fun, flirty, and new experiences together. Giving each other space builds trust and love between the two of you because it allows both of you to grow as individuals as well as grow as a pair. If you can both feel happy and at peace while being apart, that means you both trust each other enough to still have a personal life.

Stay Fun and Flirty

Don’t be that couple that gets together to stay inside all day and watch TV like an old married couple. Sure snuggle movie dates are a lot of fun and much needed, but keeping your relationship healthy means going out and doing fun things together! Remember how thrilling it was to get all dolled up for a date and get your flirt on when you first started dating? Feel that again by flirting with each other as if you just met. Plan a date night, go all out with makeup and attire, and get your flirt on girl!

Try Something New

Just as staying fun and flirty adds spice to your relationship, trying new things together will also bring spice and flavor! If you guys have been planning a weekend get-away together but things have gotten in the way, prioritize to plan that weekend! This is one of the most engaging and creative ways to get closer and stay together longer.

Don't Be Afraid to Share Emotions

Sure guys are not always the first to open up about emotions, but sharing how you feel about your relationship and how you feel about your guy is extremely important. If you keep your emotions bottled up there will never be open communication and your relationship will not grow in a healthy and beautiful way. The more you both can share about how you feel during difficult situations as well as sharing your joy while things are going great, the closer and more in love you will fall.

Learn how to Resolve Conflicts

Another important part of a healthy relationship is learning how to handle the tough times. Couples will fight, disagree, and argue – we all know that to be true so it’s HOW you both resolve the issues that will keep you together. In an argument or disagreement, it’s important that both of you feel you’re being heard: allow yourself and him to take a turn to talk/vent before resolving anything. The goal is not to win but to meet in the middle with love and affection.

Be Open to Changes

Life isn’t perfect just as relationships are not perfect. If you can internalize this reality you’re already steps ahead. Life will inevitably throw curve balls that may come between you and your guy, but being open to change is a healthy way to get closer in your relationship. Keeping an open mind will give you peace that no matter what, through the good and the bad, your relationship will always get stronger and you will be able to face anything in the future.

Control Anger and Stay Calm

Anger is a waste of time. Anger is also a relationship killer, because it makes you self-absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what's going on for you.

No matter what phase of the relationship you’re in right now, keep these 9 influential ways to keep your relationship healthy in mind. These tips serve as a guide that will become glue for you both as you embark on your journey of life together. How will you keep your relationship healthy?

HOME REMEDIES FOR EXCESSIVE SWEATING (HYPERHIDROSIS)

Sweating is a part of normal body function. When you sweat, this usually means your body is doing its job of keeping you cool. In most cases, a person sweats in response to warm temperatures, exercise and emotional situations. Sometimes a people sweat excessively, however. In such a case, they perspire profusely and in the absence of any obvious reason. When sweating is excessive, doctors call the condition hyperhidrosis.

For most of us the ninety nine percent does not pose much of a problem as sweating comes naturally and in profusion to most of us.Though stinky and uncomfortable, sweat is in fact helpful in regulating body temperature and when our body temperatures rise, the sweat glands kick in and secrete a watery fluid which cools our body. However, excessive sweating can be a bother and can cause discomfort as well as embarrassment. Sweating under natural circumstances like while doing manual labor, or exercising or sweating during a hot day, is normal, but sweating excessively without a reason should set the alarm bells ringing.

What is sweat?

Sweat is produced by sweat glands which are located in the dermis (the inner layer of skin) and consists of a fluid containing water,Sweat Glands proteins, lipids and certain minerals. There are two types of sweat glands – Eccrine (found all over the surface of skin) and Apocrine (found mainly in the armpits and groin region). The eccrine glands, contain up to ninety percent water, start producing sweat soon after birth and function as thermo regulators in our body. On the other hand, the apocrine glands are hormone related and get kick started at puberty. They are supposed to be communication signals, as they contain certain chemicals like pheromones, and their release is linked to our emotions. They do not contain much water, and the concentration of lipids, proteins and hormones is mainly responsible for body odor and discoloration, as bacteria thrive very easily in this sweat.

Why do we sweat?

Sweat is a natural biological mechanism of our body which helps to regulate body temperature and keep us cool during hotter and humid ambience or after a strenuous workout. We also break into a sweat when we are emotionally stressed out or  scared.

The idiom, breaking out in cold sweat means that we begin to sweat when we are anxious or frightened. Normally a person sweats up to a liter a day but excessive sweating could be caused by various factors.

Causes of Excessive Sweating

Exercise

During exercise or hard manual labor, our body temperature rises, thus causing our sweat glands to work overtime and produce extra sweat to help the body cool down.

Stress or Emotional Conditions

Sometimes excessive sweating occurs as a symptom of a mental health condition. Sweating caused during times of stress is secreted by the apocrine glands and is indicated by sweaty palms, soles and underarms. For instance, depression and panic attacks induce excessive sweating and it is sometimes necessary to take medication to cure this.

Physical Ailments

Excessive sweating is one of the symptoms for many physical disorders like Heart Attacks, Diabetes, Parkinson’s disease or even Cancer. Sometimes excessive sweating accompanies a serious infection, such as tuberculosis. If you feel that your perspiration is excessive and isn’t related to activity, climate or emotional upheaval.  A visit to the doctor is most important if your excessive sweating is not connected to any other factors mentioned above as this could be life threatening.

Diet

Eating a diet rich in fats and spicy foods can also cause excessive sweating especially in the head and face. Alcohol consumption and smoking are also cause for excessive sweating and body odor.

Hormonal Changes

Hormonal changes are often at the root of abnormal perspiration. For example, women experience excessive sweating during menopause and often have hot flashes, which are marked by flushed skin and excess perspiration. Pregnancy is also accompanied by hormonal fluctuations and may also lead to extra sweat. 

Besides the hormonal changes common during pregnancy, the extra weight gain and increased blood flow can contribute to perspiration as well.

If you are experiencing excess perspiration because of hormonal changes, you might try wearing cooler clothing, keeping a fan or air conditioner on and drinking plenty of cool water. Hormone therapy or antidepressants may also prove helpful during menopause. 

Medications

Certain drugs cause sweating and are one of the side effects for certain antibiotics. To determine whether excess perspiration is a side effect of medication, see your doctor for diagnosis. Take along a list of the prescription and non-prescription medications you are taking. If it turns out that medication is causing the problem, your doctor may change your prescription or suggest alternatives to those you purchase over the counter.  

Excess Weight (Obesity)

Overweight also contributes to excessive sweating as the body has to work harder to perform its normal functions. If this is at the root of your unwanted perspiration, beginning an exercise routine, coupled with a healthy diet, may help you to shed extra pounds. In the meantime, try wearing loose, cool clothing, keeping your home cool and using cornstarch powder to soak up extra sweat.

Excessive sweating can be not only uncomfortable, but also embarrassing. Fortunately, however, it doesn’t have to be a permanent condition. See your doctor to determine its cause, and then work to treat it.

Climate

Living in coastal areas can be bother some for most people as the hot humid climate causes them to sweat profusely and one tends to start sweating right after a shower!

Natural & Home Remedies for Excessive Sweating

Sweaty palms, clammy feet and excessive sweating under the armpits and groin region are signs of abnormal sweating. There are ways of fighting the emotional problems connected with excessive perspiration. There are a number of herbs and home remedies for excessive sweating which can be quite effective in reducing your sweat levels. Some of them are:

Tomato Juice

A glass of tomato juice taken daily for a week generally takes care of this problem.

Apple Cider Vinegar

An excellent way to control excessive perspiration, apple cider vinegar can be used externally as well as internally. Apply some of this under your armpits to help eliminate body odor, or if taken internally add two teaspoons of honey to two teaspoons of vinegar and have it daily for one week on an empty stomach. For sweaty feet, apply this vinegar evenly after washing and drying your feet.

Corn starch

Can be used as a substitute of deodorants, which often lead to allergies and discoloration of skin. Apply generously under arms and dust of excess powder.

Green Tea

People vouch for the effect of having a cup of green tea every day to get rid of excessive sweat and even call it a ‘miracle cure’ .

Tea Tree oil

Has astringent like properties, and is also an anti fungal agent and can be applied as a thin layer under armpits, hands and feet and the groin area.

Herbal Tea

Herbal tea has been proved to be one of the very good home remedies for excessive sweating. Sage herbal tea is particularly effective cure for hyperhidrosis. Brew sage in hot water and let it cool down. Have it everyday to get rid of excessive sweating. Sage contains vitamin B and magnesium which helps reduce the sweat gland activity and therefore reduce underarm sweating.

Potato

Cut slices of potato and rub them underarms to get rid of excessive sweating. This is the most easiest but considerably effective hyperhidrosis home treatment.

Burdock

A bitter tasting herb, it is preferable to take this in tincture form, one teaspoon three times a day. This diverts extra sweat to the lymph nodes, kidneys and bowels, thus reducing the excess sweat from pouring out through the body.

Wheat grass Juice

Wheat grass juice or the water extract from young wheat grass is very effective home remedy for excessive sweating. It helps in neutralizing acids and toxins in the blood and is also a very good source of protein, vitamin C, vitamin B-12, folic acid, and vitamin B-6. A glass of wheat grass a day can help reduce excessive sweating.

Witch hazel

This plant has natural astringent properties and acts as a natural antiperspirant for face. It gently dries skin and helps prevent infection. You can even make tea from its brewed leaves.

Tea Bags

Yes, teabags soaked in hot water acts as an effective antiperspirant as tea contains Tannic acid which has astringent properties. Soak hands and feet in warm water containing at least five teabags for half an hour and notice the difference!

Remedies for Underarm Sweating

After thoroughly cleaning (shaving and washing) underarms, apply cornstarch and baking soda under arms. Wait for about half an hour and then wash it off with water. You can also add essential oils into the mixture to act as a deodorizer.

Remedies for Foot Sweating

For foot sweating, pat your feet dry, especially between the toes after bath. Massage it with apple cider vinegar. Tea Tree Oil is also helpful for foot sweating. It can be applied directly to the sweaty areas.

Remedies for Palm Sweating

Reduce intake of foods rich in iodine. Avoid vegetables like broccoli, asparagus and white onion; avoid beef, liver and turkey meats. Boil a quart of water and soak five teabags in it. When it cools down, soak the palms for at least thirty minutes. Tannic acid in tea has astringent properties that act as a natural antiperspirant. 

How to Stay Sweat free

As we have already seen that sweating can also increase due to obesity, unhealthy food habits and weather, certain lifestyle changes will also help to tackle this problem.

Anti Sweat Diet

Avoid taking fatty diet and instead take a diet rich in silicon as this helps to regulate the production of sweat. Strawberries, grapes and almonds are rich in silicon. Drink plenty of water to dilute the toxins which cause body odor. Avoid intake of garlic, onions, caffeine, alcohol and deep fried snacks and foods.

Foods rich in vitamin B are also helpful in reducing sweating. Eat more of natural foods like cereal, fish and milk to have generous intake of vitamins b in your body.

Clothing

Wear loose clothing made of natural fabrics like cotton and linen which helps to absorb sweat. When our sweat has no chance to dry faster on the skin, bacteria collect and cause body odor, especially in underarms, soles of the feet and groin areas.

A healthy lifestyle, meditation and yoga can certainly go a long in reducing your sweat levels. Stay fit by exercising regularly, eat healthy food and wear appropriate clothing and you will find yourself sweat  free, ready to take on the world with a more confidant and positive attitude.

FOODS TO AVOID IN BREAKFAST

Get a healthy start to your day. When it comes to weekday mornings, it’s easy to go on autopilot and not think about what you’re eating. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, making healthy choices in the morning can set the tone for how you feel the rest of the day. Not only that, but eating a healthy breakfast every day can reduce your risk for diseases like diabetes and cancer.

Think Before Your First Bite

When coworkers bring in treats, the office can become a calorie trap. Stop, get centered, take a deep breath, and focus on your health goals. Which is better: the taste of a muffin or the feeling of reaching your goals?

Few Biggest Breakfast No-Nos.

Don't be Fooled by Juice

You may think that gulping down a glass of Orange Juice is a great way to start your day, but many store-bought varieties are packed with sugar. A healthy serving of orange juice is about as much as you could squeeze out of one orange. A better idea may be to have a glass of water and eat the orange itself. Whole fruit offers you all the vitamins and minerals of the juice, along with tummy-filling fiber that can help tame hunger pangs until lunch."

Fill Up...the Healthy Way

While natural maple syrup is a healthier sweetener, there are many artificial syrups on the market that are full of high-fructose corn syrup.High fructose corn syrup can lead to more abdominal obesity and visceral fat–which is stored between the organs.

Pancakes and waffles are a no-no for breakfast, especially when accompanied by sugary syrup. 

Instead, try a whole-grain cereal or toast, and try to get some protein in the form of low-fat or fat-free yogurt, lean meat, or egg whites. You'll feel fuller for longer.

You Give in to Temptation

Breakfast pastries are delicious, but when you're faced with treats first thing in the morning, try your best to resist. Sugary cereals, toaster pastries, bagels, and cinnamon rolls are tempting, Some cereals are full of carbohydrates and sugar,When you eat them, your blood sugar will spike and then bottom out, followed by a low-energy crash and hunger, which can cause a snack attack by mid-morning. Instead, choose cereals with higher protein and fibre like walnuts or ground flaxseed.

Don't Rule Out Coffee

You don't have to give up your morning cup of Joe, even if you're vying for a healthier diet. Unless you have sensitivity to caffeine or a medical condition that makes it unwise to consume it, coffee can be a delicious and natural way to boost your mood and your brain function. If you need more than a cup or two to get going in the morning, you may be sleep-deprived. Coffee is not a substitute for actual zz's.

Go Easy on Coffee Add-Ons

It's what you add to coffee that can add pounds and inches. Sugar, flavored syrups, whipped cream, and half-and-half can turn a simple cup of coffee into a real calorie-bomb, and if you have one or more each day, those calories will add up. Subtract a little of the sugar and fat gradually and work toward enjoying your morning brew as close to ‘naked' as you can make it.

Be Ready When Hunger Strikes

If you're often in a rush to get to work and skip breakfast, stock up on healthy snacks. "The key to healthy eating is planning ahead. It makes sense to keep nutritious, non-sugary pick-me-ups in your desk drawer or in the office fridge.

Stick to One Serving

A serving each of low-fat protein, whole fruit or vegetables, and whole-grain bread or cereal is a great way to get your body and mind prepared for the demands of your day. However, you need to make sure that the number of calories you take in at breakfast works within your overall daily calorie target.

Go for low fat Yogurts

Light yogurt may have only hundred calories and come in flavors such as red velvet cheesecake, but they are usually filled with artificial sweeteners and chemicals. Go for low fat sugar-free yogurt instead.

Be Ready to Face a Buffet

You can still enjoy a satisfying meal without stuffing yourself silly at the weekend brunch buffet. Just avoid items like muffins, fruit juice cocktails, and sweets. Start with eggs, lean meat,fresh veggies, fruit, and salmon.

Don't Rely on Breakfast Bars

Granola and breakfast bars often serve as quick on-the-go meals, but many of them have as many calories as dessert! Most commercial granola bars are basically oatmeal cookies in disguise, with a lot more sugar than you need. A little natural peanut butter on a folded slice of whole-grain bread is better. Make a couple of these mini sandwiches in advance and keep one in your fridge at home, and one at work.

Beware of Brunch Cocktails

Whether you're noshing on breakfast or brunch, remember your first meal of the day should nourish you, not knock you out (and add excess calories)!

Make Breakfast Mandatory

Even if you wake up feeling full from the previous night's dinner, try to munch on a little something in the a.m. Heavy meals late in the evening are likely to overwhelm your digestive system and can even interfere with a restful sleep. But if you indulge once in a while, keep in mind that even if you feel full the next morning, you haven't had any nourishment since you went to bed. Skipping meals can cause your metabolism to slow down, so if you can, try a slice of plain, whole-grain toast and hot tea, or some apple slices with plain, non-fat yogurt.

Add a Glass of Water

It's always beneficial to include a big glass of water as part of your breakfast. Water hydrate you and help you feel full and satisfied.

Remember This Mantra

There's an old saying that goes, ‘Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a beggar". Keep this quote in mind throughout the day, and you'll be on your way to healthy weight loss in no time!

IS SHE USING YOU

Have you ever fallen in love with a girl only to find that you’re more lost and confused than ever? She may seem charming and cute. She may even be flirty and just the perfect girl you’ve been waiting for. But is this new relationship leaving you confused and low on confidence?

She tells you she loves you, but the way she behaves seems otherwise. It started out fine and full of promise. But as time goes on, you cannot help but shake that feeling that she is using you, and giving nothing in return. Is she using you?

Every now and then, you may meet a girl who seems to fit snugly into the dream definition of a perfect girlfriend.

But if you ever feel a flicker of confusion in those first few weeks, chances are, she’s using you or she’s just put you on her waiting list until she makes up her mind.

It’s frustrating to realize that you’re being used, even when you’re trying to be a great boyfriend or a sex buddy.

She may try to convince you that she truly loves you and wants to be with you, but five minutes later, her behavior may change and she may just act friendly all over again.

Signs to find out if she’s using you!!!

She wants a lot of space

Are you dating a girl who  calls and messages you often or wants to meet you only when in need and having done that, and then completely ignores you for the next few days? While playing hard to get may excite a guy, this is pushing the game too far.

Every time she ignores you or pushes you away, you may find yourself falling more madly in love with her. On the other hand, she’s probably interested in a few other guys or sleeping with them, just to work out her options. When a girl claims to love a guy, and yet avoids the guy completely for a few days every now and then, there’s a good chance there’s another guy in her life.

Behaves like a friend

Does your new girlfriend behave like a friend now and then? She hugs you and cuddles you, and then pushes you away and tells you it’s all happening too fast and she’s not ready for it? 

Ouch, any girl who behaves like a girlfriend but prefers to stay friends is obviously using your love and affection to feel better about herself.

Never wants to meet your friends

If your girlfriend is constantly finding new ways to talk her way out of meeting all your friends then it’s possible she’s using you. While the reasons why may vary her intentions are undeniable. If she’s not interested in meeting the people you spend time with then she’s obviously not imagining being a part of your long term future.

Never asks you to meet her friends or family

If you have been together for a while and you’ve still not had the opportunity to meet her family nor have you spent much time with her friends, then there’s a good chance she’s not really seeing you as someone who will play an important role in her future plans. If a girl is genuinely interested in you, chances are she’ll want to show you off to everyone close to her right from the outside. If she's convinced that you're the man in her life, she'd proudly make you meet her friends. If this doesn’t happen, it might be time to have a word with yourself.

Confused about your relationship status

Now she may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she’s just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she’s confused.

If she truly does love you, there’s nothing to be confused about unless she’s still in love with another guy. If that’s the case, you’re not the winner here. You’re the scapegoat filling up the blanks when her boyfriend or another guy doesn’t have the time for her.

You’re not introduced as a boyfriend

This is a no brainer here. But it’s something most guys in love almost always forgive and forget. Have you ever been introduced as just a friend? If she’s convinced that you’re the man in her life, she’d proudly display you like a primped up puppy in a dog show. But if she’s just using you, there’s a very good chance that you relationship status will remain as friends.

Talks about her complicated love life

Do you spend more time consoling her or telling her how the mistakes in her life aren’t really her fault? Girls who end up using guys are confused women who want to be reassured and loved all the time. She may be losing the love of her own guy, and may want you to reassure her about her own relationship and fill her life with happiness and extravagant gifts. 

And yes, she wouldn’t mind cuddling up with you once in a while for all the nice things you’ve been doing for her. This is seriously messed up!

Dominates the relationship

Does she call you up whenever she feels like it, or asks you to meet her at her whims and fancies? A girl who throws her weight around a guy knows she’s already got him wrapped around her little finger. Don’t ever be that guy. You’d end up shattered almost all the time and you’d lose all the confidence you have.

Turn the table around and throw her around a bit. Two things can happen here. She’d take you more seriously, or she’s walk out of your life. Either ways, it’s a good thing for you.

She makes out but only when she wants to

You may sweet talk her and take her out to expensive dinners, all in the hope of getting some love and appreciation back from her. And of course, a little bit of making out too.

But if you’re in love with a girl who’s using you, nothing really matters. She’d let you dance on hot coals almost all the time and make out with you only when she feels like it. She initiates it and she ends it, at her whims.

Wants you to listen, but not the other way around

Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex boyfriend was and why she had to cheat on him just to show him she has other options? Or does she confess to you about making out with a few other guys and wants you to tell her she’s not wrong and that she did the right thing?

And on the other hand, every time you try telling something to her, does she forget all about it or feign drowsiness?

A girl who only wants to talk and feel good about herself isn’t in love with you. She’s using you as a priest to feel good about her own shortcomings. If she did love you, she’d be more interested to know about you and your life than whining about her own guilty confessions. 

She’s in another relationship

Almost always, relationships where the guy is being used starts off with conversations about complicated love lives. The girl you like may already be in a relationship, and with each conversation you have, both of you may fall more in love with each other. She wants to go out with you, she loves to talk to you, and she can’t wait to spend time and make out with you.

But she doesn’t want to leave her own boyfriend or end her relationship with him. She tells you she’s not happy, but she doesn’t do a thing about it.

If you find yourself experiencing any of these signs that you’re being used, you better walk out of the confusing affair before you end up with a broken heart. After all, she’s probably got a few backups with whom she’s playing the same game anyways.

She may not do this intentionally just to hurt you, it’s just that she’s a selfish little cutie who cares more about her own happiness than anything else in the world.

Few More Sign "Is She Using You"

When you go on dates look at her, if she really likes you she will look happy and excited, if not that is a bad sign.

When you go out and she always expects a gift or you to pay for everything, this is another bad sign. If she was using you, she would be disappointed if you don't bring her anything or dress a little messy.

Tell her you're a little short on cash and if she would pitch in. If she seems unhappy to do it, another sign.

If she would rather flirt with other boys than with you, this is a big bad sign.

Is she using you?

So what do you do about it now that you know she’s using you?

You have two options.

Walk out of her relationship drama before you get hurt.

Lose the love and just start using her back. With any luck, by removing love out of the equation, there’s a good chance you’ll behave more like a bad boy instead of a lost puppy and make her desire you a lot more!

Warning:

Do not go fast, take your time studying her, she may just be dependent on you and if you dump her it might be a big mistake.

It’s easy for a girl to use a guy because both sexes are used to the ritual of a guy pursuing the girl. Sometimes, she may reciprocate and fall in love. At other times, she may just end up using you. So what do you think, is she using you?