WHY DO MARRIED MEN FLIRT

Flirting is often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. An overly flirtatious husband can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the wife feels hurt, rejected, and alone.

The most common reasons why married men flirt:

-He is having a midlife crisis

-He is unhappy with wife

-He is not sexually attracted to his wife

-He likes the attention other women give him

-He is bored with married life

-He is insecure about self

-It makes him feel better about himself

-He needs to validate his attractiveness and sexuality

-He thinks flirting is harmless

-He is looking to have an affair

-It is exciting

-To meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy

-As a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the wife. He may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to the partner to shape up or risk losing the marriage

-An attempt to get the wife's attention

What to do if your husband flirts

If your husband flirts, take a little time to yourself and think about how you feel when he flirts. Once you are familiar with your feelings talk with your husband about them. Talk with him in a non-confrontational way. Be careful not to threaten him. Let him know exactly how you feel and would it would take for you to feel better. Your husband might not realize he flirts. He also might not realize how it makes you feel. If your husband doesn't want to talk to you about it or says that you are over-reacting, try talking to him again when he is more receptive. For instance, he might be less willing to listen to you if he is drunk or has just come home after a stressful day at work. He may be more open to listen and talk about it on his day off from work or on a Saturday afternoon.

WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN FLIRT

Flirting is a often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. A flirtatious wife can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the husband feels hurt, rejected, insecure, and alone.

The most common reasons why married women flirt:

-Her husband doesn't give her the amount of attention she wants

-She is unhappy with husband

-She is not sexually attracted to her husband

-She likes the attention other men give her

-She is bored with married life

-She is insecure about self

-It makes her feel better about herself

-She needs to validate her attractiveness and sexuality

-She thinks flirting is harmless

-She is looking to have an affair

-It is exciting

-To meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy.

-As a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the husband. She may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to her husband to shape up or risk losing the marriage.

-An attempt to get the husband's attention.

What to do if your wife flirts

If your wife flirts, take a little time to yourself and think about how you feel when she flirts. Once you are familiar with your feelings talk with your wife about them. Talk with her in a non-confrontational way. Be careful not to threaten or accuse her. Let her know exactly how you feel and would it would take for you to feel better. Your wife might not realize she flirts. She also might not realize how it makes you feel. If your wife doesn't want to talk to you about it or says that you are over-reacting, try talking to her again when she is more receptive. For instance, she might be less willing to listen to you if he is had a stressful day at work of if she is worried about paying the bills. She may be more open to listen and talk about it on her day off from work or on a Sunday afternoon.

THINGS NEVER TO SHARE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND

Where to draw the line in a relationship is very important. Certain information should only be limited to you. 

Personal affairs call for careful attention. And when it comes to a relationship, it makes all the more sense to keep certain personal information and details to self. The same applies to your boyfriend too. You too might be having very true and genuine feelings for each other, but being careful always helps one as an individuals. Here's a list of things never to share with your boyfriend

Your password

This is a big NO NO when it comes to sharing something with your boyfriend. Be it your email or Facebook or twitter id password, keep the sensitive information to yourself. Even though you might trust him a lot and also love him beyond words, but there are certain things like passwords that you should never share.. Let you two have your different worlds.

Your diary

It may seem romantic to share your thoughts by sharing your diary, but that too is highly avoidable. Never ever should you let your boyfriend know how you think and what you think.

Personal pics and videos taken on your smartphone

If the pics of you two are clicked or videos are taken on your smartphone, do not transfer those to him. Transfer those to your computer or tablet. And delete from your database. If they are of too intimate in nature and you do not like the whole set of relatives of either side take notice of those, delete them from your smartphone silently without informing him.

Your dislike for his family

It is best you keep this secret to yourself and not let this one out either to him or your friends. There will always be some who cannot get along well with their boyfriend’s mother or sister. You need not tell him this. Not only will it make him sad but it might also ruin your relationship.

Your secrets

You never know when a relationship can go sour. So avoid sharing all the crucial and sensitive information that is related to you till you are sure of his conduct and intentions. If he is too inquisitive, just give a rough sketch of you as a person, but do not give too many details of your life.

Best friend's secrets

Your best friend has been there and done that for you all the time. But don't make the mistake of revealing your best friend's secret to him. This will be absolute betrayal to your best friend. So keep some secrets to yourself.

Your past….in detail 

Well even if you’ve mentioned about your ex boyfriend to your current one, make sure you do not give out too many details to him. Keep this a secret. It does not mean that you are cheating on him. It just shows that you do not want unnecessary trouble.

WAYS TO IMPRESS YOUR CRUSH BEING YOURSELF

When you have a crush on a guy, you can't stop thinking about your crush, and it's time to make a move! 

But what should you do to make a good impression? Wearing something that makes you look fly is a good start. Once he looks your way, striking up a fun conversation and flashing him a sincere smile will also grab his attention. 

There are tons of ways to impress him. 

Here are few ways to impressing your crush.

Be Confident

Greet him with a "Hey" or "Hi" and wave, and start up a friendly conversation. It should be something you both can relate to.

Internal Qualities

You know what your best qualities are. If you’re intelligent, start up a conversation about something that will flaunt your smarts. If you’re athletic, challenge him to a game of basketball. Put yourself into a situation that will benefit you. Don’t volunteer to help him fix his car if you’ve never looked at an engine before. Play up your strengths.

Dress to Impress

It’s no surprise that men enjoy gazing at gorgeous women. Wear pretty attire to make his jaw drop. Just like your internal traits, you have some great external traits. What part of your body are you most confident about? If you love your legs, wear a great pair of shorts around him. If you think you have beautiful eyes, wear make-up that will make them stand out even more. Draw attention to the things you like, and you’ll know he’ll love what he sees too.  Wear something that shows off your curves but isn't too revealing.

Common Connections

Try to find something you have in common. If you have something in common with him, it’s bound to build a connection. You don’t have to do something spectacular in order to capture his attention. Little things, like shared interests, work just as well.  Once you find something, talk to him about it! Make him think that he can really get to know you, and even become your friend.

Smile and Stay Positive

Every boy likes it if you smile to him. Make sure to smile every few times you see him. It doesn't matter if you have braces or anything else getting in the way of your smile, if he's the right guy he won't care! Be nice and friendly and he will notice that you have respect for him.

Be Open and Direct. 

Making eye contact, turning towards someone when they're talking, and standing up straight are all ways of making yourself seem more bold and interested in a person. Practice good body language and posture, and also practice speaking in a clear tone of voice. Look at him from time to time. If you see him looking back at you, hold his gaze for about half a second and look away. Then slowly drag your eyes back to his. These things will help you to get your message across when you like someone- namely, your crush!

Pursue Your Passion

Don’t you love hearing your friends talk about something they’re passionate about? Even if they love music, and you can’t play a note, it’s nice to see them get excited about something. Try talking to your crush about whatever your passion is. If you’re excited about it, it can make him excited about it as well. Just don’t go on for too long if you see him starting to nod off.

Show Off Skills

You’re good at something, and you know it. It could be telling jokes, or drawing, or singing. Whatever it is, find a way to show your crush your talent. If he sits next to you in class, draw a picture that’s so fabulous, it’s bound to catch his attention. If you’re older, ask him to go to the karaoke bar with you, and then show off your fantastic vocal skills. One of the best ways to impress him is by finding something you’re already good at, and comfortable doing, and showing him how it’s done.

Brag a Bit

No one likes to hear someone brag about their accomplishments every chance that they get. However, if you once won a short story contest, and the topic comes up in conversation, don’t be afraid to mention your win. As long as you don’t go overboard, and stay modest, it should impress any guy.

Get him to notice you

Walk past either laughing, talking to your mates or eating some chips, or any other casual thing. Talk about parties, clubs, or things that make you seem cool or athletic, etc. behind his back loudly, but casually. You never know - you may see him there.

It Pays To be Nice

It sounds silly, but men are impressed by genuinely nice women. Unfortunately, it's rare to spot someone that actually cares about others. If you treat your teachers, coworkers, and waiters with respect, you just might impress him enough to score a date.

Don't change Yourself

Don't change yourself to get him to like you back. Even if your crush isn't big on school, this doesn't mean you should drop out of all your honor's classes. Never, ever, ever change for someone else- only change for yourself. This includes all guys, because any guy worth your time will realize how awesome the real you is and not expect you to change one bit.If they're not into your normal self, they're not the one for you.

As long as you're true to yourself, you can't go wrong. Any guy that doesn't like you for you doesn't deserve you. What is the most impressive thing that someone can do that will get your attention?

Few More  Important Tips

-Never tell your friends to talk to him for you, it will make you look like a coward, and maybe in some circumstances he will start liking your friends instead of you because obviously he talks more to your friends than you.

-Be nice and friendly. No one wants to be friends with someone who makes them feel bad about themselves.

-Don't do things you don't want to do. Just be yourself.

-Have fun trying to win his heart!

-Fluff his ego then walk away. Not only is he left wanting more, but he is under the impression that it's his idea!

-If he no longer goes to the same school as you, but you know you might be going there yourself, then there is the perfect time for you to practice your tips for next year.

Warnings

-Don't expose your love for him, because then he will know and he might not reciprocate the feelings.

-If your crush tells you that he is with some other girl, try not to take it so hard on yourself and don't  get so jealous and heartbroken.

-Try not to go overboard with impressing him.

-If he plays a sport you don't like at all, don't just play the sport to impress him! Find something else you have in common!

-If you want to date him right away don't, just take it easy with him.

-Don't dress sexy. Dress simple, but hot, fashionable, and trendy.

GIRLS NEVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAM

If you’ve always wanted to be a teacher, don’t let him talk you out of it. You shouldn’t have to choose between your man or your dreams. If you love one another, you should be able to find a way to make things work. If you decide you no longer want to follow a certain career path, that’s fine. But one of the things a woman should never do for a man is let go of her dreams in order to be with him.

Change your Morals

Everyone has a different set of morals, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, your man should respect your morals even if he doesn’t share them. If he urges you to break them, he is doing you a disservice. He should like you for who you are, and shouldn’t try to change you. Your strong morals should be something he admires, not something he wishes to change.

Sacrifice Your friends Time

Everyone will agree that there aren’t enough hours in the day. However, you can’t spend all of your free time with your man. Your friends and family need you just as much as he does, even if you don’t realize it. Divide your time in a way that is fair for everyone. Don’t neglect your friends, because you’ll need them once your relationship ends.

Forget Whom You Are

You know your likes and dislikes. You know what you want to spend your weekends doing. Don’t let a man alter your opinion on things. It’s okay to grow, but don’t purposely act like you like something you hate, because you think it will make him happy. Be whom you are, or what’s the point?

Let Him control you

As much as you love him, you should never let him have total control over your life. If you’re in a committed relationship, it’s important to discuss big decisions. However, he doesn’t have the final decision over what you are and are not allowed to do. In the end, you’re always going to be the one in charge of choosing your path in life.

Lower Your standards

You know what you want, and you know what you need. If a man isn’t good enough for you, then don’t settle for him. It takes time to find the one for you. It’s not that you’re picky--it’s that you’re unwilling to settle for anything less than the best.

Alter Appearance

Just because men love Victoria's Secret models doesn’t mean that they all need girlfriends that fit that mold. If your man pressures you to dress a certain way or to get surgery, you don’t need him. It’s your body, and you’re in charge of it. If he doesn’t see your natural beauty, then you should look for someone who does.

Act stupid

Never pretend to be someone you’re not. Don’t pretend to be less intelligent or less handy around the house to make him happier. Believe it or not, men like independent women. He’ll be proud of how capable you are of taking care of things.

Have Kids to Please Him

If you and your man want to have kids, then that’s fantastic! But if your man wants to have children and you’re not comfortable with the idea, you can’t get pregnant to please him. Having a baby is a huge choice that you have to take seriously. You can’t have a baby, just because he wants one. It’s a decision that you have to agree on, if you want it to work.

Starve Yourself

There’s nothing wrong with being healthy. If you want to go on a diet or begin exercising, that’s great! Of course, you should only do so because you want to better yourself. Don’t do it in order to please the opposite sex. And, of course, never use extreme methods like purging or starving yourself. There are plenty of ways to lose weight and feel fit that involve healthy methods.

Hurt Someone

If your boyfriend wants you to stop associating with an ex, it’s a touchy situation. If you do as he wishes, make sure that you don’t end up severely hurting your ex. He’ll understand, so just explain the situation to him, instead of suddenly cutting him out of your life completely.

When you’re in love, your partner is bound to become a massive part of your life. However, being close to him doesn’t grant him authority over your decisions. Have you ever done something for a man that you now regret?