WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN FLIRT

Flirting is a often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. A flirtatious wife can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the husband feels hurt, rejected, insecure, and alone.

The most common reasons why married women flirt:

-Her husband doesn't give her the amount of attention she wants

-She is unhappy with husband

-She is not sexually attracted to her husband

-She likes the attention other men give her

-She is bored with married life

-She is insecure about self

-It makes her feel better about herself

-She needs to validate her attractiveness and sexuality

-She thinks flirting is harmless

-She is looking to have an affair

-It is exciting

-To meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy.

-As a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the husband. She may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to her husband to shape up or risk losing the marriage.

-An attempt to get the husband's attention.

What to do if your wife flirts

If your wife flirts, take a little time to yourself and think about how you feel when she flirts. Once you are familiar with your feelings talk with your wife about them. Talk with her in a non-confrontational way. Be careful not to threaten or accuse her. Let her know exactly how you feel and would it would take for you to feel better. Your wife might not realize she flirts. She also might not realize how it makes you feel. If your wife doesn't want to talk to you about it or says that you are over-reacting, try talking to her again when she is more receptive. For instance, she might be less willing to listen to you if he is had a stressful day at work of if she is worried about paying the bills. She may be more open to listen and talk about it on her day off from work or on a Sunday afternoon.

THINGS WOMEN DESPERATELY WANT FROM MEN

Someone once said 'To generalize on women is dangerous. To specialize on them is infinitely worse'.

Well, what women want still remains the un-answered question across the globe. However, men needn't lose hope for all is not lost. There are still a good number of things that most women like. Here are a few from the long list which can perhaps help you make her fall head over heels in love with you. Take your pick to woo and sweep her off her feet!

Strong man

Women love to be protected. So show in more ways than one to prove that you will be her saviour should your damsel land in distress! Women are always in awe of men who can step up in times of conflicts. Be sure you grab every opportunity that situation throws at you.

Transparency

Honesty is still the best policy. Never lie to her if you are thinking of a long-term relationship. Never mind you will face some initial flak, but eventually you will win over her trust.

Smell good

Deodorant Ads may be going overboard showing men being lured by women's perfume. But the other way is also true. Choose a deo that suits you. Especially if it's your first date, it's best not to try anything experimental. Know what smells best on you. Remember, what smelt heavenly on your friend might stink on your skin! For everything depends on your body odour. When you spray perfume on your body, what you smell is a combination of the deo spray and your body odour. Choose wise.

Surprises galore

Women love surprises be it chocolates, love notes, gifts or even a bouquet of flowers. Women don't mind them in any numbers. You are sure to score brownie points with this one!

Perfect body

What with the celebrities being obsessed with getting a six pack or eight pack abs, girls too go ga ga over men with a well-toned body. Get into the habit of regular workout so you can make heads turn!

Dress well

Nothing turns off a women than a poorly-dressed man. Do a style-check, spot the trends in fashion, speak to a stylist to find out what looks best on you. Clothes maketh man literally!

Crowning glory

Nothing like a funky haircut! A good hairstyle can give you a different look altogether. What are you waiting for? Get that stunner look so you can impress that chick you have been eyeing.

Magic of your hands

You might have taken your girlfriend to the hottest restaurants in town, yet she will not mind if you can cook one of her favourite dishes (or even plain instant noodles) when she's hungry. Such moments are never forgotten.

There's a joke doing the rounds that 'A woman's mind is cleaner than a man's That's because she changes it more often'. However, there are some things that remain constant.

THINGS NEVER TO SHARE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND

Where to draw the line in a relationship is very important. Certain information should only be limited to you. 

Personal affairs call for careful attention. And when it comes to a relationship, it makes all the more sense to keep certain personal information and details to self. The same applies to your boyfriend too. You too might be having very true and genuine feelings for each other, but being careful always helps one as an individuals. Here's a list of things never to share with your boyfriend

Your password

This is a big NO NO when it comes to sharing something with your boyfriend. Be it your email or Facebook or twitter id password, keep the sensitive information to yourself. Even though you might trust him a lot and also love him beyond words, but there are certain things like passwords that you should never share.. Let you two have your different worlds.

Your diary

It may seem romantic to share your thoughts by sharing your diary, but that too is highly avoidable. Never ever should you let your boyfriend know how you think and what you think.

Personal pics and videos taken on your smartphone

If the pics of you two are clicked or videos are taken on your smartphone, do not transfer those to him. Transfer those to your computer or tablet. And delete from your database. If they are of too intimate in nature and you do not like the whole set of relatives of either side take notice of those, delete them from your smartphone silently without informing him.

Your dislike for his family

It is best you keep this secret to yourself and not let this one out either to him or your friends. There will always be some who cannot get along well with their boyfriend’s mother or sister. You need not tell him this. Not only will it make him sad but it might also ruin your relationship.

Your secrets

You never know when a relationship can go sour. So avoid sharing all the crucial and sensitive information that is related to you till you are sure of his conduct and intentions. If he is too inquisitive, just give a rough sketch of you as a person, but do not give too many details of your life.

Best friend's secrets

Your best friend has been there and done that for you all the time. But don't make the mistake of revealing your best friend's secret to him. This will be absolute betrayal to your best friend. So keep some secrets to yourself.

Your past….in detail 

Well even if you’ve mentioned about your ex boyfriend to your current one, make sure you do not give out too many details to him. Keep this a secret. It does not mean that you are cheating on him. It just shows that you do not want unnecessary trouble.

HOW TO KEEP HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Every one crave a healthy relationship but may not know the ways to keep relationship healthy. Through life’s ups and downs there are sure ways to keep a relationship healthy and deepen your connection to each other every day. 

Relationships are all about getting along with someone that you spark a love interest with. If you don't get along, it's not really a relationship is it? You can wait for your broken relationship to crumble to pieces.

Here are some of the most influential ways that will help your relationship flourish!

Trust Each other 

Don't lie, don't cheat, and trust them when they say they aren't. Why would you be in a relationship if  your just going to be unfaithful? Don't ever lie and make up feelings. Don't say "I love you" unless you feel it, and if they don't say it back it's okay, it takes longer for others. If they have a friend of the opposite sex, don't automatically be mean and nasty all the time to your partner and their friend. It is possible to just be friends, and if your feelings are true for each other this shouldn't even be a issue.

Be Open and Honest With Each Other

One of the most influential ways to keep your relationship healthy is to be open and honest. This means maintaining a level of respect for each other’s boundaries and always talking through everything together. There should be no outside forces driving either of you to make decisions between the two of you because as long as you’re both open and honest with each other, you will both grow and compromise and love each other more and more!

Understand Each other

Being understanding of each other’s decisions, lifestyles, and future desires is crucial in developing a healthy relationship. Learn how to read each other’s body language, how to read each other’s facial expressions, and how to read each other’s thoughts. Understanding each other incorporates all of the bullets I just mentioned in this article because understanding is the root of your relationship. Once you both understand each other, you can then grow together and maintain a healthy relationship.

Encourage Each other

In keeping decisions between the two of you, make sure to encourage one another through the process. You know the expression: it takes two to tango. I can tell you from experience that unless there is encouragement in a relationship, the two of you will fall apart. If he has a dream or goal, support him and show him your encouragement. If you have a big dream or goal, he should equally be supporting and encouraging you!

Give Each Other Space

Part of having a healthy relationship also means giving each other space in addition to sharing those fun, flirty, and new experiences together. Giving each other space builds trust and love between the two of you because it allows both of you to grow as individuals as well as grow as a pair. If you can both feel happy and at peace while being apart, that means you both trust each other enough to still have a personal life.

Stay Fun and Flirty

Don’t be that couple that gets together to stay inside all day and watch TV like an old married couple. Sure snuggle movie dates are a lot of fun and much needed, but keeping your relationship healthy means going out and doing fun things together! Remember how thrilling it was to get all dolled up for a date and get your flirt on when you first started dating? Feel that again by flirting with each other as if you just met. Plan a date night, go all out with makeup and attire, and get your flirt on girl!

Try Something New

Just as staying fun and flirty adds spice to your relationship, trying new things together will also bring spice and flavor! If you guys have been planning a weekend get-away together but things have gotten in the way, prioritize to plan that weekend! This is one of the most engaging and creative ways to get closer and stay together longer.

Don't Be Afraid to Share Emotions

Sure guys are not always the first to open up about emotions, but sharing how you feel about your relationship and how you feel about your guy is extremely important. If you keep your emotions bottled up there will never be open communication and your relationship will not grow in a healthy and beautiful way. The more you both can share about how you feel during difficult situations as well as sharing your joy while things are going great, the closer and more in love you will fall.

Learn how to Resolve Conflicts

Another important part of a healthy relationship is learning how to handle the tough times. Couples will fight, disagree, and argue – we all know that to be true so it’s HOW you both resolve the issues that will keep you together. In an argument or disagreement, it’s important that both of you feel you’re being heard: allow yourself and him to take a turn to talk/vent before resolving anything. The goal is not to win but to meet in the middle with love and affection.

Be Open to Changes

Life isn’t perfect just as relationships are not perfect. If you can internalize this reality you’re already steps ahead. Life will inevitably throw curve balls that may come between you and your guy, but being open to change is a healthy way to get closer in your relationship. Keeping an open mind will give you peace that no matter what, through the good and the bad, your relationship will always get stronger and you will be able to face anything in the future.

Control Anger and Stay Calm

Anger is a waste of time. Anger is also a relationship killer, because it makes you self-absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what's going on for you.

No matter what phase of the relationship you’re in right now, keep these 9 influential ways to keep your relationship healthy in mind. These tips serve as a guide that will become glue for you both as you embark on your journey of life together. How will you keep your relationship healthy?

IS SHE USING YOU

Have you ever fallen in love with a girl only to find that you’re more lost and confused than ever? She may seem charming and cute. She may even be flirty and just the perfect girl you’ve been waiting for. But is this new relationship leaving you confused and low on confidence?

She tells you she loves you, but the way she behaves seems otherwise. It started out fine and full of promise. But as time goes on, you cannot help but shake that feeling that she is using you, and giving nothing in return. Is she using you?

Every now and then, you may meet a girl who seems to fit snugly into the dream definition of a perfect girlfriend.

But if you ever feel a flicker of confusion in those first few weeks, chances are, she’s using you or she’s just put you on her waiting list until she makes up her mind.

It’s frustrating to realize that you’re being used, even when you’re trying to be a great boyfriend or a sex buddy.

She may try to convince you that she truly loves you and wants to be with you, but five minutes later, her behavior may change and she may just act friendly all over again.

Signs to find out if she’s using you!!!

She wants a lot of space

Are you dating a girl who  calls and messages you often or wants to meet you only when in need and having done that, and then completely ignores you for the next few days? While playing hard to get may excite a guy, this is pushing the game too far.

Every time she ignores you or pushes you away, you may find yourself falling more madly in love with her. On the other hand, she’s probably interested in a few other guys or sleeping with them, just to work out her options. When a girl claims to love a guy, and yet avoids the guy completely for a few days every now and then, there’s a good chance there’s another guy in her life.

Behaves like a friend

Does your new girlfriend behave like a friend now and then? She hugs you and cuddles you, and then pushes you away and tells you it’s all happening too fast and she’s not ready for it? 

Ouch, any girl who behaves like a girlfriend but prefers to stay friends is obviously using your love and affection to feel better about herself.

Never wants to meet your friends

If your girlfriend is constantly finding new ways to talk her way out of meeting all your friends then it’s possible she’s using you. While the reasons why may vary her intentions are undeniable. If she’s not interested in meeting the people you spend time with then she’s obviously not imagining being a part of your long term future.

Never asks you to meet her friends or family

If you have been together for a while and you’ve still not had the opportunity to meet her family nor have you spent much time with her friends, then there’s a good chance she’s not really seeing you as someone who will play an important role in her future plans. If a girl is genuinely interested in you, chances are she’ll want to show you off to everyone close to her right from the outside. If she's convinced that you're the man in her life, she'd proudly make you meet her friends. If this doesn’t happen, it might be time to have a word with yourself.

Confused about your relationship status

Now she may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she’s just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she’s confused.

If she truly does love you, there’s nothing to be confused about unless she’s still in love with another guy. If that’s the case, you’re not the winner here. You’re the scapegoat filling up the blanks when her boyfriend or another guy doesn’t have the time for her.

You’re not introduced as a boyfriend

This is a no brainer here. But it’s something most guys in love almost always forgive and forget. Have you ever been introduced as just a friend? If she’s convinced that you’re the man in her life, she’d proudly display you like a primped up puppy in a dog show. But if she’s just using you, there’s a very good chance that you relationship status will remain as friends.

Talks about her complicated love life

Do you spend more time consoling her or telling her how the mistakes in her life aren’t really her fault? Girls who end up using guys are confused women who want to be reassured and loved all the time. She may be losing the love of her own guy, and may want you to reassure her about her own relationship and fill her life with happiness and extravagant gifts. 

And yes, she wouldn’t mind cuddling up with you once in a while for all the nice things you’ve been doing for her. This is seriously messed up!

Dominates the relationship

Does she call you up whenever she feels like it, or asks you to meet her at her whims and fancies? A girl who throws her weight around a guy knows she’s already got him wrapped around her little finger. Don’t ever be that guy. You’d end up shattered almost all the time and you’d lose all the confidence you have.

Turn the table around and throw her around a bit. Two things can happen here. She’d take you more seriously, or she’s walk out of your life. Either ways, it’s a good thing for you.

She makes out but only when she wants to

You may sweet talk her and take her out to expensive dinners, all in the hope of getting some love and appreciation back from her. And of course, a little bit of making out too.

But if you’re in love with a girl who’s using you, nothing really matters. She’d let you dance on hot coals almost all the time and make out with you only when she feels like it. She initiates it and she ends it, at her whims.

Wants you to listen, but not the other way around

Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex boyfriend was and why she had to cheat on him just to show him she has other options? Or does she confess to you about making out with a few other guys and wants you to tell her she’s not wrong and that she did the right thing?

And on the other hand, every time you try telling something to her, does she forget all about it or feign drowsiness?

A girl who only wants to talk and feel good about herself isn’t in love with you. She’s using you as a priest to feel good about her own shortcomings. If she did love you, she’d be more interested to know about you and your life than whining about her own guilty confessions. 

She’s in another relationship

Almost always, relationships where the guy is being used starts off with conversations about complicated love lives. The girl you like may already be in a relationship, and with each conversation you have, both of you may fall more in love with each other. She wants to go out with you, she loves to talk to you, and she can’t wait to spend time and make out with you.

But she doesn’t want to leave her own boyfriend or end her relationship with him. She tells you she’s not happy, but she doesn’t do a thing about it.

If you find yourself experiencing any of these signs that you’re being used, you better walk out of the confusing affair before you end up with a broken heart. After all, she’s probably got a few backups with whom she’s playing the same game anyways.

She may not do this intentionally just to hurt you, it’s just that she’s a selfish little cutie who cares more about her own happiness than anything else in the world.

Few More Sign "Is She Using You"

When you go on dates look at her, if she really likes you she will look happy and excited, if not that is a bad sign.

When you go out and she always expects a gift or you to pay for everything, this is another bad sign. If she was using you, she would be disappointed if you don't bring her anything or dress a little messy.

Tell her you're a little short on cash and if she would pitch in. If she seems unhappy to do it, another sign.

If she would rather flirt with other boys than with you, this is a big bad sign.

Is she using you?

So what do you do about it now that you know she’s using you?

You have two options.

Walk out of her relationship drama before you get hurt.

Lose the love and just start using her back. With any luck, by removing love out of the equation, there’s a good chance you’ll behave more like a bad boy instead of a lost puppy and make her desire you a lot more!

Warning:

Do not go fast, take your time studying her, she may just be dependent on you and if you dump her it might be a big mistake.

It’s easy for a girl to use a guy because both sexes are used to the ritual of a guy pursuing the girl. Sometimes, she may reciprocate and fall in love. At other times, she may just end up using you. So what do you think, is she using you?

HOW TO KNOW HE IS JUST USING YOU

Men and women often want different things from their relationships. If you're emotionally involved with a guy, it's possible that he might not feel as deeply. It happens to the best of you, you are hanging out with a guy, having a good time, but underneath it all something just doesn’t feel quite right. Well, ladies, the reason could be because a guy is using you. We’re not saying it’s definite, If he is using you, there will be some signs right out in the open, but you might not know it! If you have a feeling that he is using you, it might not be a healthy relationship to be in.

Some men are just out for a hookup buddy...

Ladies, you deserve better than just someone using you!!!

Here are few how to know if you're being used:

HE ISN'T TRUE TO HIS WORDS 

This man knows how to speak to your heart, and you love the things that he says to you, but as we all know, actions speak louder than words. No matter how his words make you feel, if he isn’t proving them to you and living up to them, his words hardly mean a thing at all.

HE'S ONLY AVAILABLE WHEN HE NEEDS SOMETHING FROM YOU

What about his availability? Do you constantly find that he isn't available unless he needs something from you? This is definitely a sign he is using you. After all, don't you want a guy that is going to be available when you need him to be? Not just when he needs you?

FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON YOU

Not only do you pay for everything, but he is actually financially dependent on you. He expects you to pay all of the bills that you two have, no questions asked. He doesn't even contribute to the monthly bills that he has racked up with you. This is a sign he is using you and you shouldn't stand for it!

YOU PAY EVERY TIME YOU GO OUT

Even though the guy is supposed to pay in the beginning, you constantly find yourself paying for every single thing when you two go out. Does that seem to be the case with your relationship? That's definitely one of the top signs he is using you. While it's okay to split the bill, you shouldn't constantly be pulling your wallet out to pay all of the time.

EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

When something goes wrong, this man is somehow able to push the blame onto you. No matter what the problem is, some way or another, this guy is able to pinpoint you as the one who caused it to happen. When a guy does nothing but blame you for the bad things in his life, he’s truly only putting you through emotional blackmail. Leave this guy and let him suffer through his own issues.

YOU ARE HIS CONVENIENCE

Are you constantly finding yourself his convenience for a ride or for an 'allowance'? That should never be the case when you are in a mature relationship. Everything should be even; you should never be someones 'convenience'.

HE NEVER BUYS ANYTHING SPECIAL FOR YOU

In a relationship, it’s all about give and take. On your man’s birthday, you shower him with gifts, and you’re the type of woman to buy him a present here and there, just because. On the other hand, this guy rarely gives you anything that shows he cares about you. If you’re with a guy who can’t treat you to something nice every once-in-a-while. That's a sign ladies. After all, shouldn't your boyfriend buy you some things sometimes?

HE IS ONLY AROUND WHEN HE NEEDS YOU

When it’s convenient for you, this man shows up or makes time to contact you. If he needs a ride to work, needs a lunch, or needs a few dollars to pay his cell phone bill, he’s contacting you as quickly as possible. However, when he isn’t in need of anything you can provide, rarely do you hear from him and rarely is he around. When a guy is using you, he’ll usually only show up when it’s convenient. It's a sign girls!

DOESN'T CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS

Does your boyfriend take any of your feelings into account? 

Does he even think about how his actions affect you?

No matter how much you tell this guy that certain things make you tick or make you sad, he doesn’t seem to take it in and consider your thoughts and feelings. Instead, he does what he wants to do without ever stopping to think about how his actions may make you feel. One of the biggest signs that a guy is using you is the fact that he couldn’t care less about your feelings.  This could be a sign he is using you ladies!

HE ONLY COMES HOME AT NIGHT

Once you see a pattern that your partner comes home late at night, it is a sure red flag in your relationship. Although it is typical for some men to come back late after a night with friends, usually this as a frequent and cyclical pattern can only mean that he wants you for one thing only. And that doesn't include anything along the lines of emotional bonding.

NEVER TAKES YOU OUT IN PUBLIC

Dating, especially at its early stages, should not be done in secret unless there are extreme circumstances. Your partner should feel comfortable being seen with you, no matter the time or day. However, if he insists on a private relationship, you know that it will be doomed sooner or later.

NEVER GOES THROUGH WITH YOUR PLANS

If a men is interested in getting to know you, he will put in every effort in order to see you and get the chance to talk to you. When you two get to spend time together, things go pretty well. But, when you make plans to spend time with him, he’s often the one that has to cancel the plans, and most of the time his excuses aren’t very good ones. your partner doesn't seem to care about spending time together. Continuously cancelled plans are a good sign that a guy is using you.

IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU

Once you realize that your partner has no interest in getting to you as a person and what you stand for, you know that he can't possibly be genuine about his feelings toward you. After all if his interest doesn't lie in you, unfortunately he might be using you for something else.

NEVER INTRODUCING YOU TO FRIENDS OR FAMILY

We all know that the next step in a serious relationship is meeting the friends and the family. However, if your partner never comes around to it and keeps changing the subject, you know that he doesn't see a future nor does he plan it with you. If he doesn't take the relationship seriously, he will have no intention of bringing you into his inner circle.

YOUR GUT IS WARNING YOU

Sometimes when your head says one thing and your heart says another, you have to listen to your gut. You might have doubts about your other half for a reason and it only makes sense to explore them to ensure the validity of those feelings. If you feel that something is not right, don't just ignore what your gut is telling you because believe it or not, sometimes everything is not what it seems.

THERE IS NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION

If there is no emotional connection between two people, the only reason for the existence of a relationship between them is purely based on selfish interests. Think about it, if there is no emotional and psychological link between two people, the only thing that is anchoring them to each other are physical needs or selfish motives.

Ladies, if you see any of these signs he is using you, it isn't a healthy relationship. So girls, have you ever been in a relationship that had any of these signs he is using you?

COMPLIMENTS YOUR MAN WANTS TO HEAR

Unlike the ones from the opposite sex, women are accustomed to receiving compliments - from the random guy at the pub to the street whistler! On the other hand, men rarely get a compliment. So fire off a meaningful compliment to your man and make way for a steaming night ahead.

Here are few compliments men love to hear, and should be hearing from you. Let him know that you appreciate him and that he's special.

What would I do without you?

Guys love to feel needed. Whether it is to help you understand bank work or simply open a jam jar — it is one of the greatest feelings for a man that you can't live without them. Cuddle him and tell him it would have been impossible for you to do anything without him.

I respect you

It might seem old-fashioned, but men and women are different. We don't think the same, talk the same, or respond the same to similar situations. Women want to feel loved, cherished and safe. Men want respect. Since men often withdraw when they don't feel that respect, it's worth giving him the positivity he craves. A man wants to know that you are focusing solely on him and that he is your priority. When you do focus on him, you will get so much in return.

Crave to spend more time with you

Sometimes you need to connect with his inner being as well. No matter how much you compliment him on his looks or his skills — your efforts will go waste if you don't let him know how much you love him and want to be with him. Tell him that it is his innate characteristics that draw you closer to him.

I am proud of you

Men are very sensitive to performance issues. They worry about disappointing you. Telling him that he's the best, most loving man has a megawatt positive impact. Men need reassurance that they are doing a good job.

I Feel Safe When I'm With You

No matter how independent you are, your guy wants to know that he makes you feel protected (even if you are the spider-killer in your relationship).

You are excellent at your job!

Praising your guy's brain power is a must! Every guy wants to know that he is awesome at his task. Go that extra mile and tell him how much you admire him for the way he shows his dedication and loyalty towards his work. This one will touch him...really!

That was delicious

Men have a primordial need to provide for their women. While their intentions are typically good, their culinary skills might be lacking. Reward him for his efforts nonetheless. If you lambast him for dry chicken, he'll feel insecure, and won't want to try again. Sometimes it truly is the thought that counts — especially when Chinese take-out is just a phone call away.

I am happy with you

It might sound like something your mom told you, but it's true, If you want to be in a fulfilling relationship, you must first be happy with who you are. You can't put pressure on your partner to be the sole source of your bliss. If you are who you are fully and completely with no armor, you will magnetize and attract the perfect person for you because light attracts the light.

Boy, you can work it!

Tell your man how awesome he is in the bedroom — this one definitely ranks at the top of his list! A guy dies to hear how good he is at the skills he works so hard to perfect.

You're so freaking hot!

This is one compliment that will instantly lift his spirits. Complimenting a guy on his good looks is okay, but it is a different thing altogether to tell him what makes him so desirable — serve up his accolade, gently touch his body parts to add an extra sizzle to it.

You make me better

He loves you and will do anything for you, so when you find yourself trapped in a routine and feeling somewhat spark-less, the biggest compliment you can give him is a reminder that he's improved your life.

I trust you

You've probably got this one covered, but communicating it is all in the timing. "The best time to share your feelings with your guy is just before or during sex. At that time, levels of oxytocin, a hormone that enhances feelings of trust, love and intimacy, are elevated, making it the very best moment to love talk with your partner. It's also the ideal time to let him know what you want from him in the relationship, as he will be the most receptive and open.

You look handsome

It may sound obvious, but men enjoy a good ego-stroking, especially when they're not trying to impress.

Your friends are fun

There are nights you'd much prefer to stay home with a Say Yes to the Dress marathon than endure hours of beer-guzzling with his former frat brothers, but these guys are a part of his past and it's important to let him know that you love every aspect of him — even if you're glad he's grown up a bit since his keg-stand days. Going to his social events or family functions makes you see your boyfriend through other people's eyes and remember why you started dating him.

LOL

Being able to make my boyfriend laugh is the most gratifying feeling. Laughter triggers the release of protective endorphins which manage pain and promote feelings of well-being. Even if he's no stand-up comedian, a good-natured giggle will make you both happier.

It's not your fault

We all have bad days, and it's easy to take out the anger you feel towards your boss on your husband. Although you may know deep down that it's not actually your man you're upset with, he still might take your mean words to heart. Instead, level with him about why you're cranky. He'll be your best advocate.

I am sorry sweetheart

When an irrational fight arises out of a silly situation, the best thing to do is to apologize before it escalates into something bigger, and a lot meaner. He's not always the enemy. Sometimes hormones, or even lack of calories are the culprits.

Thank you

It's easy to overlook the small gestures, like when he swaps out his toothbrush head for yours or straightens up the apartment even if you're not having friends over. Instead of issuing a passive aggressive, "it's about time!" thank him. Catch him doing something right every day. Whether it's that he made your coffee just the way you like it, or holds the door for you, tell him how much you appreciate his efforts and, above all, be specific about what he did and how it made you feel. That way, he'll know exactly what he's done well, and he'll do it more often.

FEW THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE SAYING I LOVE YOU

Saying I love you is not something you rush into. It takes careful thought to make sure it is the right decision to make in your relationship. The actual moment you say it can be spontaneous, but these things should definitely be considered before rushing into things.

Do you agree that these need to be considered before saying I love you? 

What are some other things that you should think about before saying it? 

Do you think it is better to plan on saying I love you or should it be spontaneous?

Taking that step in your relationship is a big deal, but there are a few things to consider before saying I love you in your relationship. Saying I love you is more than just saying a sentence. It is a declaration and a promise, and you need to make sure you are ready for that promise when you say it. You may think you are ready, it is the right time, or that you two are destined to be together, but it can’t hurt to consider these things before saying I love you.

The Right Setting

While you might feel the timing is right, think about if the setting is right before saying I love you. We all dream of this fairy tale romance with our significant other. While we might not get that fairy tale all of the time, if you are ready to say I love you, you can create your own fairy tale setting. You don’t have to plan something big if you are getting ready to say it, but make it a special moment between you two. It seems a lot more romantic if you say it at a spontaneous moment between the two of you rather than just throwing it out there while watching TV.

Are you ready For Next Step

Saying I love you is a big step in a relationship. It shows a sense of dedication and commitment to each other. Before saying I love you, really think if you are prepared for that next step. Can you see yourself moving in together, or getting married? It may seem like a lot of baggage attached to one phrase, but there are certain milestones some people expect to come after saying those big words.

Willing To Accept Their Response

A huge reason people hold off on saying I love you is for fear of the response they might get. It can be a scary thought to say I love you and not hear it back. But if you are truly having these feelings, it is better to be open rather than bottle up your feelings. Even if your partner is not on the same emotional level or not ready to say it back, you should still let them know how much you care for them. Let them know their response will have no affect on your feelings for them. Having an open dialogue is incredibly important in a relationship, and especially so when saying I love you.

Will Show It

Actions speak louder than words. Telling someone you love them is more than just saying a sentence; it is a promise to show them that love and passion you have for them. It may not be exciting, but it will reinforce your love when you do small things for your partner. Make them breakfast in bed, treat them to a massage, be there for them on their hardest days. If you are not willing to make an effort to be there for your significant other in the good and bad, you might want to reconsider saying those three words.

Is It The right Time

Whether you believe in love at first sight, you might want to take some time to say I love you. You don’t want to rush into a serious relationship too soon. Do you really know the person after a few weeks? Saying I love you means accepting their flaws, quirks, and everything in between. You have to really know a person inside and out to truly know if you love them. Wait until you two know more about each other to drop the “L” word.

Do You Mean It

This one may be a bit obvious, but don’t say it if you don’t mean it. Even if your partner says it first, if you are not ready to say it or don’t have those feelings, it is better to be honest than say it back and dig yourself into a hole. You cannot take those words back once said. Take some time before saying it to really think about what those words mean and if you can stand behind the promise of loving something when it really comes down to it.

Would You Want Others To Know

This may sound weird, but would you be comfortable saying I love you to your partner in front of your friends and family? Most of the time, if you tell your friends that you said I love you, they will freak out and be so excited. Are you ready to share your love with your friends and family and be proud of your relationship? If you wouldn’t want to let your parents know you are in love, you may want to wait on telling your partner.